Believe it or not, I meet most my friends out at clubs. They come up to me and I can't help but give my number away. So one day I was out at Tigerheat, this very popular gay club, when this jewish girl with big poofy curly hair comes up to me. I instantly smile and we start talking about where she worked. She worked with her Aunt at a sunglasses shop, and knew I loved sunglasses! She told me all about her discount, and I took down her number. She said if I was ever in Santa Monica, to stop by the sunglass store. I don't know what came over me, but less than a week later I was in Santa Monica walking to every sunglass store, because I wanted to surprise her. An hour later I called her to see which one she was at. She didn't pick up, and I spent another hour sunglass store hopping. I left her a message telling her I just happen to be in town, but really I was dragging my friend all over town looking for her. Turns out she was all the way on the other side of town, and the dozen shops I went to wasn't hers. I later found out she was in school and had her phone off for the first time in awhile. A few days after that we hung out, and instantly became a pair. Everything I did, I did it with her. We got closer and closer, and would have cute chats for hours in the car before I went inside my apartment. We made each other so very happy. I never wanted to tell her this, but I became dependent on seeing her. I felt my day wasn't complete without her in it. Even if it was just to grab coffee, or jump on Stickam. I remember her use to like tea, but I rubbed off on her and she started liking coffee. She would get the iced soy cinnamon dolce with me. I even remember when I switched to a iced soy toffee nut latte. She did not like it. I believe she said it tasted like dirt. But one day she decided to get her drink, and me get mine, then we mixed them together and it was good! So then we'd get it for about a month straight. I know it's kind of lame, but it made me feel good cause it was OUR drink. We concocted it together. What really made me so happy is that for awhile she was always there for me. I would call her, and she would always come as soon as she could. As if she was on call or something. She always worked with me, and helped me go grocery shopping. I remember the first time when she was shocked cause the store makes you bag your own bags. She was on the phone with someone telling them. I thought it was hilarious. We even went to Kmart together. Her first experience in one. I don't think we bought anything, but just walking around the store with her was like a new experience. I remember she was the one who got me to get my first pair of 'skinny jeans'. They were what she wore: Cheap Mondays. I use to not like them so much (cause I thought my legs were to skinny) but now I think I look good in them. We even went to San Francisco. My first time ever being there. We had a sleepover at her house, then got up and left. I remember almost breaking down for some reason, but we kept on going! Speaking about breaking down, we "broke it down" to the new Britney Spears songs, 3 months before the cd even came out. Before people even heard Gimme More, we were all over gaydar. I mean radar, but we called it gaydar. We even made videos of all us in the car, but YouTube removed it. Jive records tried suing me, and my roommate got made I was leaking the songs. We got into a huge argument, and I was replaced a week later. Next thing I know me and my best friend were packing my stuff and driving over to Jaymi's apartment. Where I stayed till I found my new apartment (which I'm in now.) Through it all, she has meant so very much to me, and I wish things would of turned out differently. You won't hear anything bad coming out of my mouth about her, cause she doesn't deserve that. She deserves to be happy, and I cherish all the times we spent together. Roxy, thank you for being you. I hope one day you find that person who will make you truly happy. I love you roxyrox.
Matthew, that was pretty touching, even though it had nothing to do with me, I felt it honestly. Just the fact that you remember all those little things, is adorable, Happy Birthday Matthew Lush. <3
That reminds me of my (ex-)best friend. I never trusted anyone more than him. He was like a living diary. Until one day he stopped talking to me. He didn't tell me why but I found out that it was because he thought I had given away one of his most personal secrets. I didn't. I only wish he knew the truth...
P.S.: When I saw the video were you hold her hand to get out of the water I was really touched. I know that picture quite some time but I never knew who belonged to the hand dragging you out of the water...
i feel like one. i mean there are alot of things i ahve done in the pass to lose friends, also to lose opportunities that may be great for my future and to make my family not want to take me with them anywhere. i just want to turn the clock back completely and start over. i made u some gushy grams before to show u how much i love u and today i made a b-day one i hope u like them =]
Wow, Matt, I totally never figured you'd be someone who went to clubs regularly!
I had more to say, and it was all supportive and probably a lot like what everyone else has already written, but I got totally distracted and the words have been lost forever. Sorry about that!
aw thats sweet that you don't wanna say anything bad about her. but i remember one time on stickam, you were with zach or joe brooks i think, and you showed a picture of roxy and said "look at that hoe-bag". i don't know, you were probably joking. if you WERE joking, i thought it was pretty funny.
They aren't lying. You called her a hoe-bag and another time a tramp. That's one big reason you aren't friends. And you're right Matt... lying does cause bad karma so watch what you say.
and matthew, it really hurts my feelings to see that you think i would even lie about something like this... and it makes you look worse to insinuate that someone's lying then to just own up to it and go on. no one said it was bad that you said "hoe-bag". you laughed after you said it. you were probably joking, like i said before. all i was doing was stating an observation. it's a free country, i can say what i want. i would respect you a lot more if when you respond to comments, you would say comments with thought, other than cute little sayings. like "lying causes bad karma". i'm a fan of yours and i share the same morals as you. i know it causes bad karma. i don't need you to tell me that. i also wouldn't expand the energy to make up a story about you calling someone a hoe-bag. i'm not that creative. i could never think of something like that. so i'm sorry you think i'm lying, and i'm sorry this comment is so long. my other one didn't get across all i had to say. hopefully you take the time read this like i've read all of your blog posts and understand what i'm saying.
AWWWWWWW!!! i remember ALL of this! u guys were the best together! u all were so close:'[ maybe sometime u should hang w/ eachother for old times sakes. i remember when u guys did the cooking show, sleepovers, and goofing off. gosh i miss it soo much! this almost made me cry. ilu lots Matthew and Roxy<3333
well u noe how i was annoyin u i dont feel like ur number 1 fan n e more its like i am just another person who admires u and that there is nothing special about me since all that happen. its meant alot to talk to u like we were talkin but i screwed it all up. thast y i keep sayin sry all teh time i feel liek a big screw up wiht everything lately i just want things to go back like they were. when i was more than ur num 1 fan i was almost like i was a good friend to u someone who u can always talk to when u have noone else to turn to u noe. thats how i felt it was like with u for me also. but i messed up.
Im sorry things couldnt work out with you and her =[ I Think its wonderful that you wrote this about her Everything happens for a reason, even if sometimes it hurts.
Just remember, People will come and go in your life, even if you dont want them to, so always cherish the times you have together =] Sorry if that makes no sense. <3ily
aww, i kind of miss roxy now. that's such a nice thing to write about her though. i almost lost my best friend a year ago, but some how we worked it out 3 months later. she's been my best friend of 8 years =] but i hate to see friendships die : (
aw, i remember Roxy. she was there the first time i saw you on stickam, lol. i'm so sorry things didn't work out well. =[ it's always hard when you grow apart from someone, especially if they're so close as she was to you. maybe someday things can get patched up <3
well u noe how i was annoyin u i dont feel like ur number 1 fan n e more its like i am just another person who admires u and that there is nothing special about me since all that happen. its meant alot to talk to u like we were talkin but i screwed it all up. thast y i keep sayin sry all teh time i feel liek a big screw up wiht everything lately i just want things to go back like they were. when i was more than ur num 1 fan i was almost like i was a good friend to u someone who u can always talk to when u have noone else to turn to u noe. thats how i felt it was like with u for me also. but i messed up.
Thats so touching. Thats how Chad and I were. We were so close, like brothers. But we always faught like crazy. Every few months. It was like we were married. But on a side note, he isnt gay. At least i dont think so haha. But it sure seemed like we were together by the way we would fight all the time. Its amazing how far friends travel through life only to have something happen where it all comes crashing down. I know how much Roxy meant to you. I remember when I first heard of you, It was in september last year sometime. I was always wondering who Roxy was, she always looked familiar to me for some reason, but anyways, I couldnt remember her name so I kept calling her Trixie.. haha... i really dont know where I came up with that. But i remember always trying to tune into your shows and stuff because you two were "it." I was always in your stickam room until my computer couldnt "support" the chat any longer. Dunno why...neways... It seemed like she always had your back as you had hers. Friends come and go but that one friend is forever. No matter what happens through life, I know for a fact without even knowing Roxy, that she still loves you, and she will always have your back. Trust me on that one.
i miss roxy going live with you. and talking to her in general. she called me during Chanukah, and we talked about jewish stuff. haha. and she colored in the heart on the postcard you mailed me with pink nail polish. im really happy you posted this blog matthew.
aw you're sucha good friend matthew :) its nice that you dont speak about her and wish her a happy life even if it didnt work out between you guys .... <33
So now, what is this? Oh great, another site Matthew Lush is on. Is that what you see? Do you not see the big picture? Why can't you see what I see? Oh wait! Maybe it's because you're not me. But you know what? You still have the opportunity to do something with your life with what I've been trying to show you.
Now is the time to really take control of your life and not let others make decisions for you. Only you can fulfill your own destiny.
Do you look down upon me because I'm not perfect? If you're looking for anything near perfect, you're looking in the wrong place. Stop looking for for perfection; it doesn't exist.
We have a tendency to look down on things that don't fit in our ideal world. But this shouldn't be an automatic reaction. Even those things that don't fit your idea of perfection should be cherished at least as potential... the potential to change... the potential to open up to new things and explore life's many horizons.
When I came out of the closet I had no one to turn to. Not even one close friend. Do you know what it's like to have no friends? I was never the popular one in high school. I struggled through years and years of pain, loneliness and heartbreak.
Eventually I turned to the internet, my hideout from the real world. There I found an opportunity to do something with my life. The internet became my tool for change. My poor aching heart found its passion.
So ask yourself: What empowers you to succeed, and why haven't you done anything about it yet? Here's another tool to do the same thing I'm doing, only the way you want to do it. Think about the endless possibilities you have, and use this space to start writing the story of your life.
My book is far from being published. It won't be a book you can see or touch. Rather it will be something that you can "feel" within you. It will be for those looking for guidance... guidance that one day I shall bring. As I grow, I hope you'll grow with me.
And finally, be positive. As my mother taught me... "Think before you speak!" If you have nothing good to say, don't say anything. Your negativity will not only affect others, it will affect you as well. So be good to yourself.
"They say time changes things, but you actually have to change them yourself." -Andy Warhol
Heyy matthew! I really hope your brother is alright! im sure everything will be fine and sure were all here if you need cheering up! lush you! - sarah x x x
omg i just read every single one of your blogs that i've missed out on. wow. hmmm. but yeahh. some of them made me decide that one day i will buy you a puppy. because you need a puppy. yess. well this is a weird pointless comment. but i love you. thanks for everything. :]
About 6 months ago i found out about you through my friend Arielle. We were friends, but not really that close. One night i invited her over and we literally stayed up all night watching videos of you on Youtube. Needless to say, we found something in common with each other; we were craazyyy in love with YOU. :) We're best friends now and i think a lot of it has to do with the fact that we shared SO MANY of those nights watching those videos.
So thanks for bringing my best friend and i closer. I appreciate it more than you could ever know.
Oh geez! That's REALLY nasty! But I will say this... you're more my hero now than ever! I've lost a LOT of guys by NOT having sex like 3 days after meeting them. But you know what, WHO CARES? I'm disease free and one of them turned into a male prostitute, another a coke addict, and I've lost touch with them all and can't say I have ANY interest in finding ANYTHING out about them!
I've had my heart broken enough times through the "process of elimination" but I still believe in the Beatles song "All you need is Love".
Do the 24 hour thing next month but just PREPARE yourself to end it if it doesn't work out as it doesn't sound like it's going anywhere but straight into some relationship sewer. And you're soooooooo perfect and ideal TOO! I don't get it!!!!
aww. i just read ur blog. i wish i can donate but i dont have the monew. srry . :(. u started to laugh when i got to the bottum of the blog thoug..lol XD
Aw!!! i am copmpletly sorry that everything isnt working for you but i will all work out fine!! i know that u cant help who you love but myabe if u sat them down at actually took time to say how u felt they would appreciate your love a whole lot more!!!! You are such a cute boy and u are very caring u dont need anybody to not have time for u!!!
I hope everything works out great!!! ♥ Ya lots Meagan !!!
You're one of the sweetest, most caring boys I know, and I want you to know that that's the best quality anyone can ever have. Don't ever think there's something wrong with you for missing him, because that's the loving part of you that's the most important part of any relationship. Just know we're all here for you and I love you for who you are, and I've come to realize that rough times are necessary for you to deal with problems and emotional issues better the next time. So you'll learn and grow, and maybe that means you'll grow closer to your bf. Try to go do things that make you happy, like playing with puppies or baking or whatever. :3 Everything seems easier when you look at it in a good mood. <3 Maddie
even though it had nothing to do with me,
I felt it honestly.
Just the fact that you remember all
those little things, is adorable,
Happy Birthday Matthew Lush.
<3